Your room is such a disgusting mess! I should just throw everything in the trash.

Feelings: disappointed, frustrated, worried
Needs: order, responsibility, collaboration, appreciation

Your problem is that you won't tell me what you want.

Feelings: sad, impatient
Needs: bonding, connection

You're such a control freak.

Feelings: stressed, frustrated
Needs: autonomy, respect

You're so arrogant [full of yourself, egotistical]!

Feelings: frustrated, hurt, angry
Needs: consideration, to be seen/heard, mutuality

You're psychotic!

Feelings: nervous, confused, frightened, angry
Needs: compassion, clarity, predictability

You're psychoanalyzing me, and my life!

Feelings: angry, disconnected, defensive
Needs: respect, privacy, autonomy, consideration

You're pissing me off!

Feelings: anger, frustration
Needs: understanding, cooperation

You're not hearing me!

Feelings: frustrated, lonely
Needs: to be seen/heard, empathy, connection

You're not getting me right now.

Feelings: disheartened, discouraged, frustrated
Needs: to be seen/heard, mutuality, collaboration

You're not being generous enough.

Feelings: disappointment, guilt
Needs: contribution, effectiveness

You're just jealous.

Feelings: defensive, hurt, disheartened
Needs: acknowledgment, harmony, acceptance

You're afraid to take risks.

Feelings: downhearted, hopeless, worry
Needs: purpose, stimulation, contribution

You're a child molester!

Feelings: horror, fear, grief, shock
Needs: respect, safety, peace, healing

You withdraw when you are upset because you are trying to punish me.

Feelings: resentful, afraid
Needs: connection, security, safety

You will keep the house clean and the way I want it, or I'm not living here!

Feelings: angry, disappointed
Needs: cleanliness, support

You were wrong not to tell me about the broken dishes.

Feelings: anger, disappointment
Needs: honesty, respect

You were a good daughter the first day or two. Now, you are only showing the worst sides of yourself. I can only be sad and disappointed in you.

Feelings: sad, dissappointed, confused
Needs: clarity, understanding, harmony

You used to touch me. Now, you don't hug me or touch me. And, you recoil when I try to hug you and be close to you.

Feelings: afraid, lonely, confused, hurt
Needs: clarity, connection, acceptance, affection

You took it upon yourself to...

Feelings: resentment, bitterness, disappointment
Needs: consideration, collaboration, choice, participation

You started it!

Feelings: defensive, angry
Needs: to be seen/heard, fairness, safety