I shouldn't be so emotional!

Feelings: fear, shame
Needs: expression, clarity

I shouldn't risk failing. I probably can't do it anyway.

Feelings: frustrated, depressed, tired
Needs: competency, purpose, autonomy

I shouldn't be so fearful!

Feelings: disappointed, frustrated
Needs: peace, competence, confidence

I should exercise more!

Feelings: disappointed, confused, guilty
Needs: health, consistency, self-trust, vibrancy, strength, beauty

I should be achieving more!

Feelings: panicky, restless, guilty
Needs: belonging, contribution, meaning, acceptance

I should be able to understand everything.

Feelings: worried, overwhelmed, uneasy
Needs: security, competence, order

I should be able to let go of events from childhood.

Feelings: discouraged, burnt out, 
Needs: healing, growth, hope, peace, wholeness

I said I'm sorry!

Feelings: defensive, insecure, worried
Needs: connection, harmony, acceptance

I need to make everything right.

Feelings: worried, concerned
Needs: need to serve, integrity

I love you so much! I'd die without you!

Feelings: joyful, alive
Needs: love, connection

I just have to carry on. It's my responsibility

Feelings: tired, gloomy, overwhelmed
Needs: security, respect, honor

I have no value.

Feelings: grief, disappointment, loneliness, shame
Needs: purpose, contribution, meaning, community, self-connection

I have no purpose.

Feelings: confused, depressed, disconnected, hopeless
Needs: purpose, meaning, belonging, appreciation, contribution

I have just been dumped on!

Feelings: angry, overwhelmed
Needs: choice, respect, consideration

I have been abused!

Feelings: angry, hurt, frightened, resentful
Needs: healing, nurturing, safety, respect

I feel undermined!

Feelings: angry, resentful, shocked, frustrated
Needs: honesty, collaboration, trust, support

I feel so abandoned!

Feelings: terrified, hurt, lonely, sad, bewildered
Needs: reassurance, belonging, connection, support

I feel like everything is my fault!

Feelings: shame, hopeless
Needs: acceptance, empathy, support, mutual responsibility

I feel humiliated!

Feelings: embarrassed, ashamed, angry, dejected
Needs: respect, equity, compassion, consideration

I feel helpless!

Feelings: scared, despair, frustration
Needs: support, empathy, agency