You can't even sweep the floor right!
Feelings: furious, impatient
Needs: competence, cooperation
Feelings: furious, impatient
Needs: competence, cooperation
You better have a good explanation for this!
Feelings: alarmed, worried
Needs: understanding, serenity
Feelings: alarmed, worried
Needs: understanding, serenity
You ask too many questions!
Feelings: disconnected, defensive, vulnerable
Needs: connection, acceptance, empathy, privacy
Feelings: disconnected, defensive, vulnerable
Needs: connection, acceptance, empathy, privacy
You aren't good enough to succeed, sorry.
Feelings: disappointed, dejected
Needs: competence, reassurance
Feelings: disappointed, dejected
Needs: competence, reassurance
You are such a bitch!
Feelings: angry, hurt, scared
Needs: respect, consideration, empathy
Feelings: angry, hurt, scared
Needs: respect, consideration, empathy
You are so selfish!
Feelings: angry, hurt
Needs: mutuality, consideration, caring
Feelings: angry, hurt
Needs: mutuality, consideration, caring
You are so insensitive!
Feelings: hurt, shock, disturbed,
Needs: consideration, warmth, mutuality
Feelings: hurt, shock, disturbed,
Needs: consideration, warmth, mutuality
You are seeking outside of yourself.
Feelings: impatience, frustration
Needs: self-reliance, independence, autonomy
Feelings: impatience, frustration
Needs: self-reliance, independence, autonomy
You are punishing me!
Feelings: pain, hurt, anger, desperation
Needs: compassion, to be seen/heard, healing, connection, clarity
Feelings: pain, hurt, anger, desperation
Needs: compassion, to be seen/heard, healing, connection, clarity
You are lazy!
Feelings: impatient, irritated
Needs: support, mutuality
Feelings: impatient, irritated
Needs: support, mutuality
You are being so critical!
Feelings: pain, anger, hurt
Needs: understanding, recognition, compassion, connection
Feelings: pain, anger, hurt
Needs: understanding, recognition, compassion, connection
You are being crazy!
Feelings: frustrated, confused, angry,
Needs: peace, clarity, ease, collaboration, groundedness
Feelings: frustrated, confused, angry,
Needs: peace, clarity, ease, collaboration, groundedness
You are always grumpy or upset about something!
Feelings: frustrated, disconnected, dejected, bored
Needs: celebration, play, fun, intimacy, love, humor
Feelings: frustrated, disconnected, dejected, bored
Needs: celebration, play, fun, intimacy, love, humor
You always interrupt me!
Feelings: resentful, irritated
Needs: acknowledgement, respect, to be seen/heard
Feelings: resentful, irritated
Needs: acknowledgement, respect, to be seen/heard
You always do this!
Feelings: frustrated, despair
Needs: choice, security, trust
Feelings: frustrated, despair
Needs: choice, security, trust
Why won't you talk to me?
Feelings: hurt, frustrated
Needs: connection, cooperation, trust
Feelings: hurt, frustrated
Needs: connection, cooperation, trust
Why don't you love me anymore?
Feelings: confused, anxious, downhearted, despair
Needs: love, clarity, reassurance, appreciation, affection, warmth, companionship
Feelings: confused, anxious, downhearted, despair
Needs: love, clarity, reassurance, appreciation, affection, warmth, companionship
Why don't you have a better job?
Feelings: anxious, disappointment
Needs: security, competence
Feelings: anxious, disappointment
Needs: security, competence
Why do you always want to talk things through?
Feelings: apprehensive, tired, burnt out, resentful
Needs: safety, ease, harmony, play, connection
Feelings: apprehensive, tired, burnt out, resentful
Needs: safety, ease, harmony, play, connection
Why can't you listen to me?
Feelings: irritated, hurt, discouraged
Needs: to be seen and heard, expression, connection
Feelings: irritated, hurt, discouraged
Needs: to be seen/heard, expression, connection