Men drive sports-cars because they're overcompensating for shortcomings.

Feelings: envious, resentful
Needs: integrity, to be seen/known

Manipulated

Feelings: angry, scared, disoriented, 
Needs: autonomy, honesty, trust, respect

Look what you did! What were you thinking?!

Feelings: disappointed, anxious
Needs: trust, safety, competence

Let down

Feelings: sad, disappointed
Needs: consistency, trust, dependability

Left out

Feelings: sad, lonely, anxious
Needs: community, inclusion, belonging

I'm stupid!

Feelings: dejected, fearful
Needs: success, happiness

I'm incompetent! I can't understand this!

Feelings: frustration, anxious
Needs: contribution, autonomy, clarity

It's my fault we broke up.

Feelings: despair, anguish, ashamed
Needs: understanding, empathy, compassion, reassurance

It's all your fault!

Feelings: embarrassed, anxious
Needs: predictability, collaboration, acceptance

Invalidated

Feelings: resentful, sad, dejected
Needs: to be seen/heard, respect, acknowledgment

It is my responsibility [to fix this].

Feelings: guilty, apprehensive, concerned
Needs: integrity, predictability, contribution

Is that really your best effort?!?!

Feelings: disappointment, embarrassment
Needs: contribution, competency

Irresponsible

Feelings: frustration, disappointment, anger, fear
Needs: collaboration, predictability, preservation of life, peace, support, mutuality

Intimidated

Feelings: scared, anxious
Needs: safety, equality, support, empowerment

Insulted

Feelings: angry, hurt, disappointed
Needs: respect, to be seen/heard, acknowledgment

Ignored

Feelings: lonely, scared, hurt, sad, embarrassed
Needs: connection, to be seen/heard, inclusion, belonging

If you don't help me clean, we won't be able to spend time together!

Feelings: frustrated, anxious, 
Needs: cooperation, cleanliness, connection, peace

If I were more disciplined, I would exercise regularly.

Feelings: frustrated, disappointed, guilty
Needs: health, self-respect

I'm sorry, I'm tired.

Feelings: resigned, hopeless, resentful, exasperated, shut down, grief stricken
Needs: hope, growth, connection, ease, acknowledgment, appreciation

I'm not going to be a very good department chair.

Feelings: apprehensive, anxious
Needs: competence, respect, belonging