Bringing Light to Shame - Eight Week Series Beginning Jan. 11, 2019 (Self-Paced)
Is this you?
You have longing to feel more whole and alive in your life as well as more skillful in your relationships. You know that parts of who you are have been sent into exile and you are ready to reclaim those parts. You know that this means embracing vulnerability and being with discomfort. You have enough resource and support in your life to do this difficult work of moving into relationship with shame and cultivating a sense of self that has you thriving in your life and in your relationships. You can see how a lack of access to a solid sense of your own worth blocks your ability to engage in relationships the way you would like to and inhibits compassion and skillful relating.
You might not name shame as a part of the problem. Shame often goes undetected. Struggles with shame usually have other labels like: not standing up for yourself when you need to, withdrawing from something you really want, giving up on your dreams, overworking, feeling small in certain situations, having poor boundaries, wishing your body was different, hearing yourself say you’re not good enough, shutting down in a vulnerable moment, etc.
What is it all about?
Shame is the feeling you get when you perceive that your worth or basic sense of goodness is threatened. It's about your identity, who you are as a person. This is distinct from guilt, which is the feeling you get when you perceive that your behavior is out of alignment with your values.
Shame can be triggered by your own thoughts & behavior, by conditions in your environment, or by the behavior of others. The idea isn’t to control conditions perfectly so that you never experience shame. Rather, the hope is to cultivate compassionate awareness, see things as they truly are, and make use of skills that return you to having a sense of being grounded in your values and a sense of your own goodness.
What to expect:
You will enter into a safe and supportive environment to learn and practice. You will have the opportunity to come together with a group of others who share your values and commitment to growth. You will notice that when a whole group brings this clear intention and dedication, a synergistic field is created which makes it easier for you to do the work you want to do.
You will work with examples from your own life. This means you get to decide the level of vulnerability you will bring to each exercise. The exercises are structured so that you are challenging yourself and at the same time can maintain mindfulness and learning. The focus is on empowering you to interrupt shame, engage compassion for yourself, and stand firmly in a sense of your inviolable worth.
For each class there will be an introduction to concepts and skills, practice time in structured exercises in pairs or small groups, and then whole group questions and discussion time.
Class size ranges from 8 - 14 students. Each class contains students completely new to Wise Heart and students that know each other and me from previous classes.
You will have an opportunity to participate in an online discussion group with others in your group attending live or if you are attending via the recording, you will be able to participate with others doing the same.
How it works:
You can also opt to take the series only through the recording and ask any discussion questions via email. I recommend you find someone to do the course exercises with if you are receiving the recording.
You will receive a detailed workbook as a part of the class that you will need to have with you for each class. This workbook is dense with information and also contains instructions for each experiential exercise.
Here topics for the series:
Internal resources and thriving
Self awareness, mindfulness, an anchor, expansive identity, and a compassionate relationship to your experience are a few of the skills we will access to build internal resources in the context of shame.
Getting to know shame
We will talk about the life serving purpose of shame (what needs it is trying to protect) and how it moves from serving life to being a toxin. We will study shame at the subtle level of body, energy, emotion, thoughts, beliefs, and posture. We will practice using the body as resource to shift into an expansive perspective more easily when shame arises
Translating Into Feelings and Needs
Whether it is shame or any other judgment voice, feelings and needs are present underneath. We will practice recognizing the voice of shame as an expression of feelings and needs and offering empathy to that voice.
Embodying the Energy of the Need & Appreciation
We often talk about needs as met or unmet. This is the most salient aspect of our experience. At a more subtle level we can also experience needs as life serving energies existing fully on their own. Learning to access these essential qualities or energies gives you resource in the most difficult of experiences. Appreciation, is another door to accessing the energy of the need and we will practice with a specific structure for appreciation.
Making peace with yourself
From parents, environment, conditioning and other infinite influences we can’t name, you have inherited a whole package of characteristics, habits, proclivities, challenges, etc. that you relate to with varying levels of acceptance. Shame pulls out particular parts of this package and tries to cover them up and or push them away. By breaking down your sense of "me" into smaller bits you can more easily relate to each aspect of experience with compassion.
Deep Shame & Deep Empathy
For most of us there is something we have done in our lives that we still feel a sense of shame about. We haven’t quite been able to move on from that particular event or series of events. Shame and regret that hang on for years are toxic. They inhibit your ability to access aliveness and be a contribution to yourself and others. We will work with finding a way into long standing shame so that healing may occur.
Details:
Live Attendance means: (live attendance is sold out)
Attending at least six of the eight classes.
Arriving on time to each class (2:30pm PST).
Attending and participating for the whole class (2:30pm - 4:30pm with a ten minute break in the middle). It is very disruptive to come in and out of a single class session please plan to attend by recording if you cannot stay for the whole two hours of the class.
Consistent access to the internet speeds and connectivity that support video conferencing (600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video. For gallery view: 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down).
Facility with using the Zoom video conferencing system. Please ask to consult with one of the staff members at Wise Heart if you are unsure about this aspect of your attendance.
Log in each week using the initial instructions and meeting ID # you received before the start of the course.
Self-Paced attendance means:
As self-paced participants you will receive an extensive workbook as well as both an audio and video recordings of each session within 24 hours of the end of each session (4:30pm PST).
You can ask to be assigned an empathy buddy to work with if you like.
Questions regarding the material, recordings, and practice each week will be answered by LaShelle via email correspondence. Please place the word QUESTION in all caps in the subject line so that we can track them and respond in a timely manner.
For more technical information about zoom, you can go here.
Trainer: LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
When: 2:30pm - 4:30pm PST, Eight Consecutive weekly meetings beginning (January 11 - March 8, 2019) (Live attendance is sold out) or self-paced
Where: Online Video Conference Course
Cost $250.00
Is this you?
You have longing to feel more whole and alive in your life as well as more skillful in your relationships. You know that parts of who you are have been sent into exile and you are ready to reclaim those parts. You know that this means embracing vulnerability and being with discomfort. You have enough resource and support in your life to do this difficult work of moving into relationship with shame and cultivating a sense of self that has you thriving in your life and in your relationships. You can see how a lack of access to a solid sense of your own worth blocks your ability to engage in relationships the way you would like to and inhibits compassion and skillful relating.
You might not name shame as a part of the problem. Shame often goes undetected. Struggles with shame usually have other labels like: not standing up for yourself when you need to, withdrawing from something you really want, giving up on your dreams, overworking, feeling small in certain situations, having poor boundaries, wishing your body was different, hearing yourself say you’re not good enough, shutting down in a vulnerable moment, etc.
What is it all about?
Shame is the feeling you get when you perceive that your worth or basic sense of goodness is threatened. It's about your identity, who you are as a person. This is distinct from guilt, which is the feeling you get when you perceive that your behavior is out of alignment with your values.
Shame can be triggered by your own thoughts & behavior, by conditions in your environment, or by the behavior of others. The idea isn’t to control conditions perfectly so that you never experience shame. Rather, the hope is to cultivate compassionate awareness, see things as they truly are, and make use of skills that return you to having a sense of being grounded in your values and a sense of your own goodness.
What to expect:
You will enter into a safe and supportive environment to learn and practice. You will have the opportunity to come together with a group of others who share your values and commitment to growth. You will notice that when a whole group brings this clear intention and dedication, a synergistic field is created which makes it easier for you to do the work you want to do.
You will work with examples from your own life. This means you get to decide the level of vulnerability you will bring to each exercise. The exercises are structured so that you are challenging yourself and at the same time can maintain mindfulness and learning. The focus is on empowering you to interrupt shame, engage compassion for yourself, and stand firmly in a sense of your inviolable worth.
For each class there will be an introduction to concepts and skills, practice time in structured exercises in pairs or small groups, and then whole group questions and discussion time.
Class size ranges from 8 - 14 students. Each class contains students completely new to Wise Heart and students that know each other and me from previous classes.
You will have an opportunity to participate in an online discussion group with others in your group attending live or if you are attending via the recording, you will be able to participate with others doing the same.
How it works:
You can also opt to take the series only through the recording and ask any discussion questions via email. I recommend you find someone to do the course exercises with if you are receiving the recording.
You will receive a detailed workbook as a part of the class that you will need to have with you for each class. This workbook is dense with information and also contains instructions for each experiential exercise.
Here topics for the series:
Internal resources and thriving
Self awareness, mindfulness, an anchor, expansive identity, and a compassionate relationship to your experience are a few of the skills we will access to build internal resources in the context of shame.
Getting to know shame
We will talk about the life serving purpose of shame (what needs it is trying to protect) and how it moves from serving life to being a toxin. We will study shame at the subtle level of body, energy, emotion, thoughts, beliefs, and posture. We will practice using the body as resource to shift into an expansive perspective more easily when shame arises
Translating Into Feelings and Needs
Whether it is shame or any other judgment voice, feelings and needs are present underneath. We will practice recognizing the voice of shame as an expression of feelings and needs and offering empathy to that voice.
Embodying the Energy of the Need & Appreciation
We often talk about needs as met or unmet. This is the most salient aspect of our experience. At a more subtle level we can also experience needs as life serving energies existing fully on their own. Learning to access these essential qualities or energies gives you resource in the most difficult of experiences. Appreciation, is another door to accessing the energy of the need and we will practice with a specific structure for appreciation.
Making peace with yourself
From parents, environment, conditioning and other infinite influences we can’t name, you have inherited a whole package of characteristics, habits, proclivities, challenges, etc. that you relate to with varying levels of acceptance. Shame pulls out particular parts of this package and tries to cover them up and or push them away. By breaking down your sense of "me" into smaller bits you can more easily relate to each aspect of experience with compassion.
Deep Shame & Deep Empathy
For most of us there is something we have done in our lives that we still feel a sense of shame about. We haven’t quite been able to move on from that particular event or series of events. Shame and regret that hang on for years are toxic. They inhibit your ability to access aliveness and be a contribution to yourself and others. We will work with finding a way into long standing shame so that healing may occur.
Details:
Live Attendance means: (live attendance is sold out)
Attending at least six of the eight classes.
Arriving on time to each class (2:30pm PST).
Attending and participating for the whole class (2:30pm - 4:30pm with a ten minute break in the middle). It is very disruptive to come in and out of a single class session please plan to attend by recording if you cannot stay for the whole two hours of the class.
Consistent access to the internet speeds and connectivity that support video conferencing (600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video. For gallery view: 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down).
Facility with using the Zoom video conferencing system. Please ask to consult with one of the staff members at Wise Heart if you are unsure about this aspect of your attendance.
Log in each week using the initial instructions and meeting ID # you received before the start of the course.
Self-Paced attendance means:
As self-paced participants you will receive an extensive workbook as well as both an audio and video recordings of each session within 24 hours of the end of each session (4:30pm PST).
You can ask to be assigned an empathy buddy to work with if you like.
Questions regarding the material, recordings, and practice each week will be answered by LaShelle via email correspondence. Please place the word QUESTION in all caps in the subject line so that we can track them and respond in a timely manner.
For more technical information about zoom, you can go here.
Trainer: LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
When: 2:30pm - 4:30pm PST, Eight Consecutive weekly meetings beginning (January 11 - March 8, 2019) (Live attendance is sold out) or self-paced
Where: Online Video Conference Course
Cost $250.00
Is this you?
You have longing to feel more whole and alive in your life as well as more skillful in your relationships. You know that parts of who you are have been sent into exile and you are ready to reclaim those parts. You know that this means embracing vulnerability and being with discomfort. You have enough resource and support in your life to do this difficult work of moving into relationship with shame and cultivating a sense of self that has you thriving in your life and in your relationships. You can see how a lack of access to a solid sense of your own worth blocks your ability to engage in relationships the way you would like to and inhibits compassion and skillful relating.
You might not name shame as a part of the problem. Shame often goes undetected. Struggles with shame usually have other labels like: not standing up for yourself when you need to, withdrawing from something you really want, giving up on your dreams, overworking, feeling small in certain situations, having poor boundaries, wishing your body was different, hearing yourself say you’re not good enough, shutting down in a vulnerable moment, etc.
What is it all about?
Shame is the feeling you get when you perceive that your worth or basic sense of goodness is threatened. It's about your identity, who you are as a person. This is distinct from guilt, which is the feeling you get when you perceive that your behavior is out of alignment with your values.
Shame can be triggered by your own thoughts & behavior, by conditions in your environment, or by the behavior of others. The idea isn’t to control conditions perfectly so that you never experience shame. Rather, the hope is to cultivate compassionate awareness, see things as they truly are, and make use of skills that return you to having a sense of being grounded in your values and a sense of your own goodness.
What to expect:
You will enter into a safe and supportive environment to learn and practice. You will have the opportunity to come together with a group of others who share your values and commitment to growth. You will notice that when a whole group brings this clear intention and dedication, a synergistic field is created which makes it easier for you to do the work you want to do.
You will work with examples from your own life. This means you get to decide the level of vulnerability you will bring to each exercise. The exercises are structured so that you are challenging yourself and at the same time can maintain mindfulness and learning. The focus is on empowering you to interrupt shame, engage compassion for yourself, and stand firmly in a sense of your inviolable worth.
For each class there will be an introduction to concepts and skills, practice time in structured exercises in pairs or small groups, and then whole group questions and discussion time.
Class size ranges from 8 - 14 students. Each class contains students completely new to Wise Heart and students that know each other and me from previous classes.
You will have an opportunity to participate in an online discussion group with others in your group attending live or if you are attending via the recording, you will be able to participate with others doing the same.
How it works:
You can also opt to take the series only through the recording and ask any discussion questions via email. I recommend you find someone to do the course exercises with if you are receiving the recording.
You will receive a detailed workbook as a part of the class that you will need to have with you for each class. This workbook is dense with information and also contains instructions for each experiential exercise.
Here topics for the series:
Internal resources and thriving
Self awareness, mindfulness, an anchor, expansive identity, and a compassionate relationship to your experience are a few of the skills we will access to build internal resources in the context of shame.
Getting to know shame
We will talk about the life serving purpose of shame (what needs it is trying to protect) and how it moves from serving life to being a toxin. We will study shame at the subtle level of body, energy, emotion, thoughts, beliefs, and posture. We will practice using the body as resource to shift into an expansive perspective more easily when shame arises
Translating Into Feelings and Needs
Whether it is shame or any other judgment voice, feelings and needs are present underneath. We will practice recognizing the voice of shame as an expression of feelings and needs and offering empathy to that voice.
Embodying the Energy of the Need & Appreciation
We often talk about needs as met or unmet. This is the most salient aspect of our experience. At a more subtle level we can also experience needs as life serving energies existing fully on their own. Learning to access these essential qualities or energies gives you resource in the most difficult of experiences. Appreciation, is another door to accessing the energy of the need and we will practice with a specific structure for appreciation.
Making peace with yourself
From parents, environment, conditioning and other infinite influences we can’t name, you have inherited a whole package of characteristics, habits, proclivities, challenges, etc. that you relate to with varying levels of acceptance. Shame pulls out particular parts of this package and tries to cover them up and or push them away. By breaking down your sense of "me" into smaller bits you can more easily relate to each aspect of experience with compassion.
Deep Shame & Deep Empathy
For most of us there is something we have done in our lives that we still feel a sense of shame about. We haven’t quite been able to move on from that particular event or series of events. Shame and regret that hang on for years are toxic. They inhibit your ability to access aliveness and be a contribution to yourself and others. We will work with finding a way into long standing shame so that healing may occur.
Details:
Live Attendance means: (live attendance is sold out)
Attending at least six of the eight classes.
Arriving on time to each class (2:30pm PST).
Attending and participating for the whole class (2:30pm - 4:30pm with a ten minute break in the middle). It is very disruptive to come in and out of a single class session please plan to attend by recording if you cannot stay for the whole two hours of the class.
Consistent access to the internet speeds and connectivity that support video conferencing (600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video. For gallery view: 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down).
Facility with using the Zoom video conferencing system. Please ask to consult with one of the staff members at Wise Heart if you are unsure about this aspect of your attendance.
Log in each week using the initial instructions and meeting ID # you received before the start of the course.
Self-Paced attendance means:
As self-paced participants you will receive an extensive workbook as well as both an audio and video recordings of each session within 24 hours of the end of each session (4:30pm PST).
You can ask to be assigned an empathy buddy to work with if you like.
Questions regarding the material, recordings, and practice each week will be answered by LaShelle via email correspondence. Please place the word QUESTION in all caps in the subject line so that we can track them and respond in a timely manner.
For more technical information about zoom, you can go here.
Trainer: LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
When: 2:30pm - 4:30pm PST, Eight Consecutive weekly meetings beginning (January 11 - March 8, 2019) (Live attendance is sold out) or self-paced
Where: Online Video Conference Course
Cost $250.00
“I took the Bringing Light to Shame class that started in September of 2015. My experience of shame has fundamentally changed as a result. It isn’t that I no longer experience shame, I do. It just doesn’t have the same hold on me. It comes and goes much more quickly, and more often I experience a sense of regret for my choices, actions or words. More often I’ll now feel badly about what I’ve done rather than who I am. The experience of regret is more manageable and productive for me being that it often leads to a strategy to change course. The feeling of shame has felt paralyzing to me in the past. When I feel ashamed now, I know that I’ve behaved in a way that isn’t congruent with my values, and I can translate that into feelings and needs, and requests of myself and others. This was the first class I took with LaShelle and I have never looked back. I continue to sign up for one class or group after another. I highly recommend LaShelle’s classes as an opportunity for growth, learning, and healing. I am deeply appreciative of her guidance and mentoring as I continue to deepen my practice of NVC.”
- Dedicated Student