You don't have the courtesy to...

Feelings: hurt, shock, indignation
Needs: consideration, care, respect

You did this to yourself.

Feelings: disconnected, guilt, frustrated, anguish
Needs: mutual responsibility, competence, preservation of life

You decide!

Feelings: hopelessness, anger, hurt, impatience
Needs: mutuality, collaboration, communication

You cannot be relied upon.

Feelings: disappointed, confused
Needs: security, consistency

You can't even sweep the floor right!

Feelings: furious, impatient
Needs: competence, cooperation

You better have a good explanation for this!

Feelings: alarmed, worried
Needs: understanding, serenity

You ask too many questions!

Feelings: disconnected, defensive, vulnerable
Needs: connection, acceptance, empathy, privacy

You aren't good enough to succeed, sorry.

Feelings: disappointed, dejected
Needs: competence, reassurance

You are such a bitch!

Feelings: angry, hurt, scared
Needs: respect, consideration, empathy

You are so selfish!

Feelings: angry, hurt
Needs: mutuality, consideration, caring

You are so insensitive!

Feelings: hurt, shock, disturbed, 
Needs: consideration, warmth, mutuality

You are seeking outside of yourself.

Feelings: impatience, frustration
Needs: self-reliance, independence, autonomy

You are punishing me!

Feelings: pain, hurt, anger, desperation
Needs: compassion, to be seen/heard, healing, connection, clarity

You are lazy!

Feelings: impatient, irritated
Needs: support, mutuality

You are being so critical!

Feelings: pain, anger, hurt
Needs: understanding, recognition, compassion, connection

You are being crazy!

Feelings: frustrated, confused, angry, 
Needs: peace, clarity, ease, collaboration, groundedness

You are always grumpy or upset about something!

Feelings: frustrated, disconnected, dejected, bored
Needs: celebration, play, fun, intimacy, love, humor

You always interrupt me!

Feelings: resentful, irritated
Needs: acknowledgement, respect, to be seen/heard

You always do this!

Feelings: frustrated, despair
Needs: choice, security, trust

Why won't you talk to me?

Feelings: hurt, frustrated
Needs: connection, cooperation, trust